Man In The Mirror

Some days ago, I was listening to the song "Man In The Mirror" by Micheal Jackson and it was basically saying that if you want a change to happen around you, it has to start with you making a change to yourself in favor of making this change around you, for example, one who wishes to stop corruption around him would be required to live a lifestyle free of corruption, because he is standing for something and he has to stand without wavering, even the bible says that it is either you are hot or cold, if you are Lukewarm, God would spit you out... but that isn't where I'm heading to.
As it would be, around the same time, I happened to be reading a book; "The five love languages" by Gary Chapman and he said something in his book; that you need to give your love to get love back... and it's even said that a giver of a thing can never lack that thing.
All of this made me remember a few weeks ago while I was in a meeting and the speaker was talking about leaving your comfort zone and she said that for you to get a different result in something, you have to change your mentality towards it.
My point is this, If you do not like the relationship you have with a person, change your mentality. If you are in a situation where there is no love between you and someone, then rather than wait for the change, be the change. If you're a man who is in love with a woman and you sit and wait for years for something to happen, rather than making it happen, sorry, not going to work, you have to take the initiative and make your feelings known and take steps to secure her heart, because she isn't going to get up one day and say "marry me" out of the blues. If you're someone with a terrible relationship with your parents, and you wish it were better, then take the first step and show them love and hope and pray that they will learn to do the same. If you're a parent with a troubled child and in your bid to help this child, he/she isn't receptive, work a better angle, with love and put more effort into it, and pray for the best.
Basically, if you love someone and you dislike the state of your relationship with said individual, then you have to take steps to change the state of that relationship, or the status, as the case may be. Express your love to your loved ones freely. You may have to leave your comfort zone and do or say things you are not exactly at ease with, but it's a small price to pay to have better relationships with loved ones. So take the initiative, give your love freely and leave your comfort zone and I believe that you will find all your relationships to be full of joy and happiness

Order versus Peace

I came to a realization about the laws that communities are often governed by and the general idea of the law and order system in most countries and communities.
This realization is that the system is one based on fear. A system where punishment is attached to guidelines or rather, disobedience of said guidelines.A system where everyone is made afraid of the consequences of particular actions so they rather not perform said actions, however, there are even greater fears than getting caught in a bad act. Fears that can consume a soul such as fear of death, poverty and most importantly insignificance. Even fears that one would see as minimal may rise up in some minds to consume them like fear of rejection, or more commonly referred to as peer pressure. While these consuming fears exist, there may be order sometimes and sometimes there may be anarchy, but peace will never reign, why? Because these people having these fears don't have an understanding.
Now, many countries decided while trying to come up with their laws that their foundation would be based on biblical laws and all well and good, but either there was never an understanding or along the line, understanding was misplaced, because we find that many people keep disobeying the laws, so much so that even the lawmakers no longer have respect for both the laws they themselves have laid down, and more importantly the laws their predecessors lay down before them. As a matter of fact, leaders in places like Nigeria now come up with laws based on a whim or a fleeting thought which is quite sad. Now, laws are written based on many different things while placing fear as a driving force for people to obey these laws but the main factor that is supposed to be the foundation for law-making has been lost along the line. The foundation of the biblical laws are no longer considered when said laws are being thought of.
According to my understanding of the bible and the laws in it, for example, the 10 commandments given in the old testament, they were given to the people of God and they were told to obey them to the letter, else they would find the consequences highly unfavorable. They never really understood the laws or why they had to obey them but they did and where they didn't, they would have to suffer.
However, in the new testament, Jesus was sent down and he gave us understanding and one commandment: To love. This understanding makes us realize that to love is to have God in you and also that when you have the love of God in you, these biblical laws will be a part of you. Now being that many countries decided to base their laws on these biblical laws, anyone who has the love of God in them will respect and abide by these laws at all times. I guess what I'm trying to say is that for peace to reign anywhere, the people have to unite under the cloak of the love of God. Only then can true peace reign in any place. My opinion.